High Emotional Intelligence (EQ) will improve our health, happiness and life success … and those of our children.
As a well as our writing skills and ability to connect our characters with readers.
HOW?
What is Emotional Intelligence?
“Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions.” — About Psychology
People who perceive, reason, understand and manage their emotions as well as others around them are generally happier and more successful in their lives.
How Emotionally Intelligent are you? Take this Test…
Rate yourself 1 to 5 … 5 = Strongly agree
1. I adjust my behaviour depending who I am interacting with ie calm and friendly with a child, serious and professional with my boss. 1 2 3 4 5
2. I know exactly what my top three strengths are. 1 2 3 4 5
3. If the situation arises, I can be polite to a person I really dislike. 1 2 3 4 5
4. I know exactly where I want to be 5 years from now. 1 2 3 4 5
5. I’m attuned to people’s behavior & adjust my interactions with them 1 2 3 4 5
Now a pause for reflection …
Karen Tyrrell’s story:
When I was a teacher, I fell prey to a bully who triggered anxiety and stress within me, causing severe PTSD and mental illness. I became completely out of touch with my emotions.
Thankfully, I recovered by improving my coping skills and emotional awareness, reversing my symptoms to become More emotionally intelligent.
Now I’m an award winning resilience author of four books including children’s Books STOP the Bully and Bailey Beats the Blah … Read MORE
How to INCREASE our Emotional Intelligence
1. WRITE in your journal every day, reflecting on exactly how you feel.
2. BE self-aware of your emotions, feelings and moods. Use a mood chart to monitor your moods.
3. THINK mindfully of your feelings, actions and reactions and adjust your behaviors to suit social situations.
4. EMPOWER yourself with resilience skills to bounce back from whatever happens in your life.
5. EMPATHIZE with other people’s needs and problems and know when to help or when to refer.
6. ASK for help if you’re feeling down, anxious or overly “high”
7. SURROUND yourself with positive, supportive people. Foster beneficial relationships and avoid caustic relationships.
8. ACCEPT we all have negative emotions sometimes. We’re all human 🙂
“People with high levels of EQ are compassionate, empathetic, patient, assertive, confident and congenial. These traits shine in their …communication (body language, posture, gestures, tone of voice, and eye contact). EQ is evident in the content they write and share with others.” — Daniel Goleman expert on EQ.
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I’m a resilience author who’s dedicated to expressing my thoughts and feelings and those of my characters in a genuine emotional way. My vision is to write stories, sharing positive messages with compassion, empathy, and assertiveness. As a resilience author of memoirs, a self-help book and fiction for children, I embrace my emotional intelligence to connect with readers.
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This makes a lot of sense, and I suspect EI is manifestly lacking in many people of power, including presidents, judges and especially prime ministers (one in particular )!
Hi Steve,
Thanks for your considered comments. I believe EI or EQ is lacking in the world in general.
That’s why I’m passionate about educating our children with EQ and trying to improve my own personal EQ.
Its too easy to shut ourselves down and shut off people around us… Karen 🙂
Thank you Karen for this article! Great introductory article on Emotional Intelligence!
Hi Alex,
Lovely to meet you. Thanks for checking my post on Emotional Intelligence. Hope you’ll check out my resilience books too : Bailey Beats the Blah and STOP the Bully… Karen 🙂 PS I’ll check out your website too.
Will do! And thank you! Hope you’ll like it
Hi Alex,
Your books look very interesting especially the one on divorce.
Bailey Beats the Blah and STOP the Bully are supported by Kids Helpline and Kids Matter, reviewed by Kids Book Review. Download FREE teacher resources and kid activities from my website
Bailey http://www.amazon.com/Bailey-Beats-the-Blah-ebook/dp/B00G0O6GVW/
Bully http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KMFZM42
Cheers,
Karen 🙂
Soem great pointers here for people to strengthen and hone their emotional intelligence. Life sure does test us sometimes but the ability to bounce back is something we can all develop as you show in your life and books. Thanks as always for sharing.
Some great pointers here for people to strengthen and hone their emotional intelligence. Life sure does test us sometimes but the ability to bounce back is something we can all develop as you show in your life and books. Thanks as always for sharing.
Thanks June,
You know yourself how to hone in on those emotional intelligences as shown in your book “After Yasi”
…Cheers, Karen 🙂
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